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Jul 25Liked by Paulla Rich Estes (she/her)

I grew up in an evangelical family and church. Think PTL club and televangelist etc. So much was judgemental and fear based. I rebelled against the system though as I got older. I was the healthy one not the problem. I felt I was though

My sister who is 5 years older and straight as an arrow Christian and student recently told me she felt traumatized by our religious experiences growing up. I was shocked. She internalized it so much. I'm still trying to make sense of it all. I discuss it in therapy. I'm interested to read more of your experiences on this subject. This is something you don't hear about often

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Thanks so much, Jane. And that’s fascinating to me that you and your older sister had different experiences and long term effects. That sounds like my brother and me. I think he ditched religion before he was out of high school, but I hung onto the fear and self-erasure until I was well into my forties. And yes, wow, therapy is key, right?! Thank you for sharing your experience.

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Meant to add - PTL club, wow - blast from the past!

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Jul 25Liked by Paulla Rich Estes (she/her)

Oh yes! My family visited there in the 80s. Over the top. I'm embarrassed to admit I was there.

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Jul 25Liked by Paulla Rich Estes (she/her)

It's so hard though. It kind of sticks with you

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Definitely sticks with you. Like a leech. When you try to get rid of it, you bleed.

And no embarrassment about visiting PTL! When I was in my 20s, I took my 3 small children to visit Focus on the Family - ugh, it’s the worst! The important thing is that we know better now and we can be there for others when they wake up and see the light.

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Jul 26Liked by Paulla Rich Estes (she/her)

I make jokes about PTL club it's my way to detach myself if that makes sense. It takes time to relise that nothing was wrong with me because I didn't fit into their very small and specific box

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Jul 8Liked by Paulla Rich Estes (she/her)

This was such a vulnerable post. I loved reading every second of it, especially as someone that broke away from a Baptist background.

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Thanks so much, Marble. And yes, coming from a Baptist background, you definitely get it.

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